Monday, 29 June 2009

Break from the City

Our bodies and souls have been craving fresh air, trees that are not surrounded by concrete and wide, open spaces. So on Sunday we made an impromptu decision and went to an organic farm an hour from Bangalore called Navadarshanam (nope, we can’t pronounce it either) which is home to seven families living communally and run on Gandhian principles.

I don’t think we’d appreciated how much Maya needed a rural injection just as much as us. Alright, so Godmanchester is not exactly rural, but fields and meadows were never far from us where we previously lived. In Bangalore, all the orchards and open spaces are long ploughed up to build on every last metre of space and the closest thing you get to a field is a small patch of waste land, lorded over by lots of cows munching away at rotting fruit and vegetables. So yes, we all needed this. When we were being given a tour of the farm our guide, one of the community residents was almost apologetic, saying that there wasn’t really anything to see or do there. Perhaps he thought Maya would be bored. On the contrary, she was calmer and more at peace with herself than I’ve seen in a while. During the hours we were there, her endless tormenting of her little sister completely ceased, she chased dozens of butterflies, stroked the delicate ‘touch-me-not’ leaves which close up when you run your finger down the middle of them, shared gooseberries with some of the resident children, happily asserted her independence from us whilst we browsed in the library and chatted to others whilst she played outside and, most surprising of all, gobbled up every last scrap of the lunch we were given. The reason for my surprise is because this was proper South Indian fare, bursting with delicate flavours, coconut, curry leaves and mustard seeds. It wasn’t spicey though and this obviously won her over. Deepa, delicious though her food is, insists on pouring in half a ton of salt and chilli powder into her cooking and Maya ain’t having any of it.

Sadly, I left my camera behind so the photo above of Maya in contemplative mood wasn’t taken at the farm but a couple of weeks ago when we went to Deepa’s temple with her. I really would have liked to have taken a snap of her at the farm because, as much as Maya enjoyed romping through the fields, she looked priceless – a proper little city chick. She was wearing pink peppa pig sunglasses, a white bandana which was tied a-la-Maya, making her look like a cross between Bjorn Borg and the mad professor, combat trousers and a pink spotty hand bag which carried her plastic mobile phone. If she owned high heels, I have no doubt at all she would have donned these too.

The irony is not lost on us that whilst Andy and I are both undoubtedly country bumpkins at heart, Andy is just embarking on his career in urban water supply. But hey, the way we see it is that we’ll make the most of all that city life has to offer during the next years and then when we’ve had our fill of it, retire to a peaceful field somewhere and live in a cob house and have chickens. Oh yay. And then Maya can go and collect the eggs each morning in her high heels with her array of sparkly pink bags. After all, country folk are pretty much expected to be a bit on the eccentric side, aren’t they.

Saturday, 27 June 2009

Cooler climes for an English Rose

Yesterday, Maya was in raptures because it was cool enough to wear a cardigan to school. A cardigan! Now this may not sound very exciting, but our Maya is an English rose through and through. You may remember in an earlier blog that Maya announced that she didn't like the sunshine and has reminded me of this several times since. And each time I just look at her and think, oh dear. India is possibly one of the worst places in the world to have an antipathy to sunshine. But she does a very good job of hiding away from it under her sunhat. But anyway, this is becoming less and less necessary as it's definitely cooling down and the last few days it's actually been - joy! - on the chilly side.

I've always been quite fond of cardigans myself because my name means cardigan in Spanish (seriously) and happily oblige in her cardy fetish, getting her all kitted out. The photo above shows Maya earlier today with long sleeves and no hat, enjoying the cool air. I'm not sure where we'll be going next, but if Maya had any say in it, I imagine she'd ask for the Mongolian Steppes or the Siberian Plains or hey, just England in winter time. Then our English Rose could don multiple cardies to her little heart's content.

Tuesday, 23 June 2009

Maya's Leetle Lamb




After having written the other day that Lily is picking up some Indianisms, well she can't speak much yet whereas Maya obviously can and she's starting to come out with some brilliant Bangalorean talk. When she's in the mood, Maya sings so loudly and so vigorously that I feel sure she must be entertaining a far larger number than just her family. Latest in the Maya charts comes Mary had a little lamb. But in this song, 'little' is pronounced 'leee-tul'. And in the song she sung me today on return from school (I'd never heard it before), she warbled at top volume 'My God is sore wonderful', 'sore' presumably being her Indian pronounciation of the word 'so' as opposed to her God being in pain of any sort.

Whilst we're on the subject of the word 'so', the reason I've included the second picture of Lily having her cheek pinched is to demonstrate what both the girls have to contend with several times each day. Lily is completely blaise about it now whereas Maya still gives people a good slapping if they go near her cheek. The photo was taken at the weekend when we were just sitting there and I had my camera with me and suddenly a hand came in and SNAP! I got my photo. The cheek pinching is generally accompanied with words along the lines of 'Sorrrrrrrre sweet!' which is what reminded me of this and prompted me to include this little tangent in today's blog.

Oh, and talking of tangents, if you've read this far, please could you do me (or the Amazon I should say) a favour and click here to protest against the Brazilian government's legalisation of deforestation? Western superbrands (eg Tesco and IKEA) that we support are hugely benefiting from this. Have a quick read of the article and take 'cyber-action' at the bottom. C'mon, it'll take you five minutes. And I know I'm using Maya's blog as a soap box, but hey, it's her future.

Monday, 22 June 2009

Role Reversal


Before I write this post, I'd like to point out that many of the taxi drivers in Bangalore are very pleasant, competent men. But today I had a big old run in with a taxi driver. Hmmm... so much for my switch from rickshaws to taxis keeping my blood pressure low...It got me so hot under the collar that when we were deposited from the taxi, obscenities being shouted after me, I must've looked like I was about to lose the plot. Because as we stood on the roadside, my face as red as a chilli, Maya kissed my hand several times and and said 'Don't worry, don't worry, everything's going to be alright.' I nodded up and down and thought yes, you're right, I must keep this in perspective. It wasn't until later on that I realised what a bizarre role reversal we'd fallen into, with my three year old daughter effectively telling me to calm down!

To treat Maya for her thoughtfulness (and to help calm her Mama's frayed nerves), we went on an immediate hunt for cake and ended up at a place we've been to several times. As we walked through the door they gave us that Oh no, not you look. And I can't say that I blame them in the slightest, because each time we've been, we've succeeded in transforming a genteel, clean and tidy little cafe into a complete mess with crumbs/cake/juice/spilt tea/puke all over the chairs/table/floor/wall/ceiling/waiters. Sigh. Sometimes I wonder if I'm fit to be mother to two small children. Nevertheless, one large chocolate muffin later, I felt much better and Maya led me by the hand back out on to the crazy streets of Bangalore.

ps - The family photo above was not taken today. Today, my face was as red as the headscarf I am wearing.

Saturday, 20 June 2009

Goldilocks and the three chocolates


When I went to pick Maya up from school yesterday, she pointed to her chocolate smeared mouth with a sticky hand. 'Look - gog-luck,' she said with her mouth stuffed full of the stuff and then grinned at me with brown teeth. Delightful. 'How many chocolates have you had, Maya?' I asked, none too happy that she's being given chocolate at school anyway (I know, I'm a mean, miserly mother). 'Three!' she quipped, sticking her fingers in the air. But 3 is most definitely her favourite number at the moment because of her recent birthday so I 'm doubtful.

When I asked Maya's teacher how she got on today, the reply was 'Oooh, Maya did sooo well with answering the questions from Goldilocks and three bears so we gave her some chocolates.' I sigh - they think I'm a nightmare mother as it is, particularly since I said I wasn't happy about Maya watching so much TV at her 'Montessori' school and they gave me that Come on lady, give us a break, your kid's only here for 3 months anyway face. So I zip my mouth shut, but just before we leave, I try to say in a jokey voice (though it probably didn't work) 'Not too many chocolates. ok?!' 'Oh, don't worry!' replies the teacher. 'We only gave her six or seven.' Six or seven? In my books, that's quite a few. No wonder Maya loves going to school these days, what child wouldn't if they're fed six or seven chocolates! I'm about to say something in response but then I just sigh again and think, oh what's the point. After all, dozens of people I've met here have advocated that honey would work a treat on Lily's teething gums (I bet it would) and that cocopops is considered one of the healthiest breakfasts available.

So I think I'll just have to take off my chocolate police hat whilst we're here. Oh, and could somebody please book Maya in to see a good dentist when we're back at the end of september too? Ta very much.

Wednesday, 17 June 2009

Lovely Lily






Yes, Lily is still with us. I know that sometimes her voice gets a little lost within all these tales of adventuring Maya, but isn't this always the case - that the second child has to shout louder to get heard??

Before I get on to Lily, since my last birthday blog, the excitement was clearly all too much for both Maya and myself: poor Maya must have devoured too much chocolate cake and it all reappeared during the night. Her cocoa hangover continued the following day and she was pretty glum, sensitive and exhausted. As for her mama, I finally succumbed to my first bout of Bangalore belly and spent the entire day in bed (I honestly can't remember the last time I did that), Deepa looking after Lily in the morning and Andy coming to my rescue in the afternoon. Thankfully, it seems to have been a 24 hour belly bug and am loving the curries once again today.

And so...our lovely Lily. Where to begin? She's turning into quite the little character. Here are a few things she loves doing:

* Climbing as far into the cupboard as she can go and making a little den back there
* Chewing away at any shoes she can get hold of (She must have been a faithful dog in her previous life)
* Munching crayons
* Antagonising her big sister. Seriously, she gives as good as she gets. If Maya annoys her, she goes in for the kill and bites her very hard. And a bite from a teething baby is painful, believe you me.
* When we come to a standstill in trafiic, flirting with nearby motorcyclists and car drivers from inside the rickshaw and making them all smile. She beams at everyone and even smacks her lips at the lucky ones.
* Dancing. As soon as any music comes on, if she's sitting down she sways so vigorously from side to side that she nearly topples over and if she's standing up holding on to something, she bounces her little chubby legs up and down like a proper diva.
* Eating. Lily luuuuurves her food and every single meal time eats twice as much as her big sister. (Though I've discovered one - just one food she won't eat and that's my home-made hummous - hurrumph!!)
* Walking, which she's not far off doing. She now monkey walks around just holding on to one of our fingers. I just hope I'm there to see her first steps (I wasn't with Maya!)

Lily has also picked up a few 'Indianisms' from Deepa. Here's my favourite: Many people here, rather than saying 'yes', incline their heads upwards slightly and say 'uh', which actually sounds close to a grunt. I know that 'uh' is easier to say than 'yes', but it's priceless to hear her say that in the exact same way as Deepa.

Apart from her painful teeth (for which homeopathy BC21 is working a treat), Lily has been a very happy, very healthy little girl, the healthiest of us all in fact. She's changing so quickly, as you can see from the photos and I just can't wait to get to know her better. As I promised a few months ago, Lily - I promise I'll do a Lily blog one day and then you can take the centre stage. In the meantime, continue being the smiling, singing, dancing, gorgeous little girl you are. And please don't grow up too fast.

Sunday, 14 June 2009

Maya is Free








Three years ago today, on a warm and sunny evening, Maya was born in our bedroom as Beethoven's Emperor Concerto was playing. Little did we know at the time how our lives were about to change or how, three years on, we'd be enjoying another sunny day with our two children on the other side of the planet. What a rollercoaster of a three years its been, with such tremendous highs and lows. But how amazing to have the opportunity to be here in India to celebrate our little girl's third birthday. I can hardly believe she is now three, or 'free' as she pronounces it. But I rather like hearing her declare 'I am free!', so certainly won't change her pronounciation.

Before you think the first picture above I've inserted incorrectly, I wanted to add a picture of Maya's second birthday in Godmanchester. I had a touch of nostalgia this morning, thinking about all the great parties we've had under the birthday tree back home, celebrated with lots of friends and family, so thought I'd include this photo as a happy memory. This year couldn't be more different, we just had our little family and I had a few moments of feeling bad for Maya, that she wasn't surrounded by lots of the people she loves on her birthday. But you know what, it didn't last long. Firstly, because this feeling would then be washed away by that surge of excitement that sometimes engulfs me and says We're in India. INDIA!!! And that takes some beating. The second reason is because, as the day wore on, I realised that (no offence to loved ones back home!), as long as presents and even more importantly, CAKE featured in her day, Maya really couldn't have cared less whether she celebrated her birthday with two or two hundred people. Perhaps this wouldn't be the case a few years on, but for a two year old turning three, she was happy as larry and I can say with confidence that she had a fabulous day.

The photos above tell the story...Maya woke up to a decoration-filled room and a be-ribboned chair on which she ate her breakfast and opened her presents. The sunglasses she has on her head (thank you Nanny & Grampa!), amongst many other gifts were a great hit and have rarely left her face all day. She even refused to take them off for bath time. After a trip to our local tailor to get some clothes altered (I am in love with the tailors here - it's such a lost art in the UK), we went to 'Monkey Maze' for an hour. Monkey Maze is a big play centre with plastic balls, slides, climbing equipment and lots of books, games and toys and it's been the perfect afternoon out for us and we go about once a week. It's actually pretty calm as has only recently opened and is run by Anita, one of the kindest, loveliest people I've met since being in Bangalore. (Oh, and Maya's wearing her chosen pink dress in this picture that I scorned in a previous blog...and okay, I admit she looks pretty sweet...)

After some family skyping and lunch back home we headed out to the Jayamahal Palace Hotel for a swim. Her school friend Aanya was meant to be joining us but was unwell so instead it was just lil old us and our French friend Jean-Francoise we met when we first came to Bangalore. The weather was perfect - warm, but not too hot with a lovely breeze and we had a great time swimming, eating cake (note the tiger theme - thought it was apt since it'll probably be the only birthday Maya will spend in India. Or maybe not....) and drinking copious amounts of chai. Maya was on fantastic form and was coming out with some brilliant comments this afternoon, my favourite being 'When I'm younger, I'm going to climb up to the clouds.' Good plan Maya, can I come too?

We finished the day off back home with naked musical statues (Maya, not us!!) as we all boogied round the apartment to Buena Vista Social Club and a few episodes of Charlie and Lola and she is now away with the fairies, fast asleep with her pink sunglasses wrapped firmly around her face. So, our little one is three. And she is also free. We have seen so many children here who have their childhood's taken away from them. We have so, so much to feel thankful for.